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Radio Interviews

I've been doing a ton of radio interviews lately on Losing Your Religion.  In the last week I've done shows on the west coast, mid-west, the south, New York area...all over the place.  Doing radio interviews are always interesting because:
I never know much about the host, so I never really know what I'm going to walk into.I don't know who is listening and I know few of them listen for the whole hour...so I'm always a little unsure of where to stop my comments.The host rarely reads the entire book before the interview so sometimes they ask really odd questions.Sometimes the show just seems like a bunch of commercials. And then there are shows like I did the other day... ...a radio show that focuses on women. That's always interesting for me.
Debbie Chavez does a show for Christian women in the Denver area, helping them in all sorts of areas.  Knowing this ahead of time I didn't really know what to expect.  But, I must say, she was a fantastic interviewer.  S…

Exert from the Introduction of "Losing Your Religion"

Well, the book is finally available for purchase.  Thanks for everyone's kind words about it up to this point.  Now we will see what happens with it.

If you'd like to get the book yourself, you can click on the icon to the right (or click here).

Here is a short exert from the introduction that, I hope gives you a better understanding of the heart behind why I wrote this particular book.  Thanks for reading.  Here it is:

"...I’m hoping this book will serve as a mirror to reflect aspects of our church sub-culture that are off base. When I say that, I’m not speaking of other people; I’m speaking about each of us as individuals. We each make up the sub-culture we live in.
I have a growing concern that more and more people who call themselves Christians are unintentionally slitting the wrist of their faith. In a pursuit to be faithful, they try to will themselves into embracing habits and routines and disciplines they believe will cause them to be a “better Christian.” Although…

3 Things Haunting People - that few can put their finger on

As a pastor I obviously talk with a lot of people.  I usually have 2-3 "meetings" a day where I'm with people from our community.  Now, I'm not the best "counselor" available, to say the least, but I do talk with a lot of people.  Most of them I just consider friends.  And, as friends, we talk about all sorts of things.
Whenever the topic of faith comes up we all have struggles.  All of us have doubts that we think of as an enemy to faith, rather than a catalyst for it.  We all have areas of unbelief, that we somehow let overpower all the areas we can honestly stand firm in.  All of us have these types of struggles when it comes to issues of faith.

But there are 3 things that always seem to haunt people at the core of their being.  3 things that cause people to shrink back from embracing the very things they want to.  Guilt.  Shame.  Fear of what other people think.

You see, these are 3 of the 4 things that religion is founded on.  Whether or not we claim …

Proactive Leadership

There are all sorts of tensions in our culture that, in my opinion, as leaders, we need to be proactive in addressing.  Unfortunately, many times we tend to just let them come to us (and then react to them) rather than proactively leading our people and equipping them to navigate conversations like: same-sex attraction/partnershipgay marriagelegalization of marijuana Then there are some other topics that we tend to just let go unaddressed in the church context, like: the role of women in the churchspecific (defers from context to context) spiritual giftsnavigating the church and state boundaries These are all issues that are too often left unaddressed and therefore they become "unspoken truths" that leave people to drown in their own assumptions.  And this creates confusion.  We tend to think that people will be able to navigate these issues on their own and clearly understand our position as a local church.  Both assumptions are wrong.  And, it's my firm belief that we m…

Advance Reader Giveaway...

Well, I have extra Advance Reader Copiesof my forthcoming book and I want to give them away!  So, like I have done in the past, I thought I would include my daughters into the process.

So, here is how you can get a copy:

RetweetShare the post on FacebookI will send out tweets that say, "RT for a chance to win a free copy of Losing Your Religion" and I will also be posting on Facebook, "Share for chance to win a free copy of Losing Your Religion."

I will give it a few hours and then my two oldest daughters will be choosing the winners - one for Facebook and one for Twitter.  To keep this fair (because my daughters will always pick a girl!) I will assign a number to each person that either RT's or Shares the post.  I will ask my girls to pick a number and if your number is picked, I will contact you for your address...and then I will mail you the book.

BUT here's the best part about it...whichever daughter picks your number will also write you a little note.  It&…

Before taking massive steps of faith...

There have been many times when I have allowed my fears of what might (or might not) happen to overpower my faith.  And I must say that I don't look back on those times with total freedom.  I feel the most freedom and security and even happiness when I have operated from the premise of faith.  That's the truth.

I define faith as doing what God asks despite not knowing the consequences of your obedience.

These steps of obedience can seem like massive moves of "risk" and 100% life altering.  But we can't limit it to that.  Faith tends to be much more practical for us, and most often embraced in the mundane aspects of our everyday lives.

That said, sometimes people are called to take massive, life altering steps of faith.  For instance, I was called to move my family a thousand miles away to plant a church in a city where I barely knew 2 of my wife's old college roommates.  I was called to do it without asking anyone to join our team and without asking anyone t…

Surgery and Musings In Recovery

As some of you know, I recently had surgery on my right lung.  To be exact, I had to get half of it removed.  Going into the surgery I didn't even really understand what they were doing.  I knew they had to remove a "mass" from my lower lobe because it was infected and increasingly getting worse, but that's all I really understood.  After the surgery, I found out more.

Each of our lungs have 3 lobes (top, middle, lower) and each set of lobes has one air passage way.  However, my right lung had a 4th lobe with it's own passage way - a defect found in a very small percentage of people I guess.  This was attracting all sorts of bacteria, was inflamed and beginning to cause a number of different issues.  The surgeon was confident that it would've eventually become cancerous.  So, they went in to remove this extra "lobe" and cut off the additional passage way to it.  But once they removed it they realized my lower lobe (the biggest of the lobes) was also…

Identity Statements

I'm 2 weeks into teaching through the sermon on the mount at Colossae.  We just covered Matthew 5:13-16 and walked through a few things that seemed to really stand out to people in these verses.  I know they did to me as well.  Here are a two very brief points I think changes the way we view this passage as well as ourselves:

These are not commands.  We often think we need to try and be salt and light in the world.  But that's not what Jesus is saying here.This is an identity statement.  We don't need to try and be salt and light, because Jesus says his disciples ARE salt and light.  Jesus says, "You are salt..." and he says "You are the light..."
So, the question isn't whether or not we are these things.   The question is whether or not we are identifying ourselves as Jesus identifies us and living authentic to who he's made us to be.  It's an issue of identity.  How we identify ourselves will drive every aspect of our lives.  The truth is …

Better Off Without Jesus Giveaway

Okay, just for fun I've decided to give away copies of my latest book, Better Off Without Jesus.  So, here's how it will work...

I will send out tweets that say, "RT for a chance to win a free copy of Better Off Without Jesus" and I will also be posting on Facebook, "Like for chance to win a free copy of Better Off Without Jesus."

I will give it a few hours and then my two oldest daughters will be choosing the winners - one for Facebook and one for Twitter.  To keep this fair (because my daughters will always pick a girl!) I will assign a number to each person that either RT's or Likes the post.  I will ask my girls to pick a number and if your number is picked, I will contact you for your address...and then I will mail you the book.

BUT here's the best part about it...whichever daughter picks your number will also write you a little note.  It's a way they feel a part of my ministry and a way that you can have a smile put on your face.

Sound go…

Note to Leaders: Expectations

My wife recently took my daughters to the Nutcracker play.  It’s become a tradition in our family...for the girls, that is.  They get dressed up, go out to dinner with some friends and then enjoy the play.  It’s something they really look forward to.
My wife was telling me about how much fun they had and then told me something my five year old daughter, Karis, said to her about a half-hour into the play.  It blew my mind.
Karis said, “Mommy, I have to go potty.  Can you pause it?”
What?  Pause the play?  Wow.  She had no idea if she was watching a screen or a play or live television.  She’s always been able to pause live television so, I guess, who could blame her.  This has been a luxury she didn’t know how to operate without in her life.  She expected to be able to pause it, go to the bathroom and not miss a beat.
This is cute for a five year old, but these changed expectations is a reality for all of us and especially younger generations.  I enjoy technology as a 38 year old man and i…

Insights Into Publishing [2]: How The Money Works

If you missed part 1 of this series, please first see the post directly below.

Publishing is a business, no matter how you look at it.  Authors may realize this in theory, but practially speaking I find they are surprised at how much it actually is.  People pursuing to be published tend to view their work through a lens of "having something to say" and they simply want others to read it.  This is good and needed in publishing.  Publishers actually look for it.  But it can be a rude awakening for authors when their passion meets the business world of publishing.

Publishers want and need to sell books for a profit.  Period.  And if you are someone who wants to write a book, you must embrace this at every practical level.  Like it or not, you are wanting to enter a new business venture.  This may not motivate you, but that's a reality you must embrace.  If you are a reader, I think you should know this too.  Your buying habits may change after knowing a few things.

I person…

Insights Into Publishing

I have published 6 books with 4 different publishers and am currently writing my 7th book that will be available in August of 2013 (more on that later).  Although my experience is not as vast as some others,  I have learned a few things about the publishing world.  Some I don't like while others I don't mind so much.  Some things I've learned the hard way and some prior to getting bitten.

But regardless of how I feel, I think by far the majority of people don't have a clue about how publishing actually works.  And I think, with some basic knowledge, people would go about writing or purchasing books differently.  Much differently.


I frequently get emails, Facebook messages, DM's via Twitter, Google+ messages, etc from people who are writing or have written a book they desire to get published.   Most of these inquiries are about how to go about pursuing a publisher.  But I've also helped a number of people negotiate terms with publishers from the background.  In …